Ahhh, February the month of LOVE is just around the corner.  No sooner were the Holiday decorations put away then we were bombarded with red and pink hearts in the stores and the commercials telling all the ways we can show our loved ones we love them.  It seems to me that more often that not February, the designated month of Love, brings those longings and stirrings but not of love of anxiety and frustration.  For many of us it simply reminds us of what we may perceive we don’t have enough of –LOVE.

How many times have you thought to yourself one or all of these things:

If only I found the love of my life I would be happier or more complete.

If only _____________    (fill in the blank with any name or person, spouse, child, friend, boss or co-worker) would do or be _________________________ I would be happier or feel more loved.

If only ………………….

Our quest for love reminds me of one of those Looney Tunes cartoon characters – their heart shaped eyes bug out and bounce on springs at anyone that might fulfill those deep stirrings of Love.  There is not one person who does not want to love and be loved back.

If this sounds even remotely like you – I know it was me once – then let me tell you — You are LOOKING FOR LOVE IN ALL THE WRONG PLACES.

I have many clients who come to me that are looking for their soul mate, the ONE; or those who want to change their existing relationship so that it is filled with more love.  From my own experience, I know that we must always first take a journey within ourselves and see how our relationship with self is first.  I would usually tell them that having a life filled with Love means they must first start with self-love.  This is what exactly what I did after I ended my 27 year marriage – I embarked on a inward journey of healing inner wounds and “learning to love” myself.  What I discovered was something much more simple.  I discovered how to stay with the Love that was already me. 

For many, our hearts remain empty or filled with longing for love because we feel that we cannot have this or that because we have to do this or that first.  We say to ourselves. “Once I — release this, let go of that, learn to love myself …” etc. etc.   We jump through so many of these hoops to have that all-fulfilling experience of Love.

Well, I am here to tell you that you don’t need to do any of that.  STOP LOOKING FOR LOVE IN ALL THE WRONG PLACES, because LOVE is YOU.  You don’t need to be loved by others; you don’t even have to love yourself first.  You only need to know without a shadow of doubt that You are Love.   Once you embody this truth then all of the experiences of love that you desire will come to you.

Ok, I know — you’re thinking sounds good BUT easier said then done.  Not really!!  All you have to do is KEEP IT SIMPLE or even better yet

 

K.I.S.S.   === KEEP IT SIMPLY SACRED!

 

One of the five core Andean principles that I was introduced to many years ago is the act of MUNAY.  This act is a K.I.S.S.  One small word that packs a lot of punch and power, the kind that comes right from the heart.

Munay is a Quechua word that means love.  Not romantic love but a deep abiding love – the essence and energy of Divine Love.  It is an unattached and impersonal love that naturally and simply flows from our hearts. This kind of love is un-conditional; it does not expect anything in return so you can allow it flow freely without any strings attached!   This kind of love – Munay  – is a simple warmth and caring, an innocent love of acceptance.  When we when are in munay it as easy as the rainbow following the rain or the brilliance of sunset colors as the sun kisses the day good bye.

To be this Love – to experience Munay start simply. Start with a K.I.S.S.  Keeping It Simple and Sacred.  Start with the beauty that surrounds you.  Focus on nature, focus on pets and animals, and focus on the things and people around you that you already love.  Focus on things that feel sacred and feel like love!  Then take that out into the world with a few conscious acts of kindness and caring, a simple smile, a loving look into someone’s eyes.

Do this everyday and soon PURE LOVE & MUNAY become a part of your character.  It will flow from your heart and freely be expressed spontaneously.  You won’t need to go looking for Love anymore. You will be LOVE!