“Mirror, Mirror on the wall …” Remember that fairy tale about Snow White and her evil stepmother? Whenever the stepmother would ask the magic mirror who was the fairest she would become enraged at the answer. It was not what she wanted to hear.
How you view people, the things you say about them, the judgments that you pass on others are just like that magic mirror and they are probably not what you want to hear either. Judging others is your biggest mirror to the parts of yourself that are un-healed, child-like and have been cast into the shadows of yourself.
Take a minute to think about the things you say about others — a co-worker, the spouse/significant other of a friend, or the person who pushes your buttons the most. Oh, we all have a few choice words to say about someone and it can get pretty ugly. Now what if I told that those same things that you say, those same judgments, are all within you as well. Ouch, that stings a little bit doesn’t it?
Most judgments of others are the ego’s strategy to avoid uncomfortable and hidden feelings. If you lack the awareness of where they come from they can show up in pervasive and unseen influences, wreaking havoc on your life and leave you spinning.
Your judgments are assumptions based on what you have learned or been told. We try to make sense out of situations by defining them or others as “right” or “wrong”, “good” or “bad” as set forth by the “rules” of our culture and our peers.
The Shaman knows that she cannot see what is not already within her and that by judging others she is actually defining who she is so she practices non-judgment.
By practicing non-judgment you cease being the victim and use your judgments as a mirror for healing and growth. When you practice non-judgment you can have compassion without having to have had the experience. You recognize that others are who they are because of their experiences and their perceptions, just like you; and you can let go of labels and focus on healing those shadow parts.
When you practice non-judgment you can transcend your limited beliefs, even the ones about what you think is right and wrong.
You remember that placing the blame or judgment on someone else leaves you powerless to change your experience but taking responsibility for those same beliefs and judgments gives you the power to change them.
You may not like what that Magic Mirror of Judgment reflects back to you, but if used wisely its’ power can help you heal un-seen parts and bring a little more magic into your life.